january 31 2013

ipad.. ipad.. ipad

been very into ipad these few weeks.. used it almost every night and every single time possible.. never been making use of the ipad before and only recently i make the full us of it

though it's the very first generation of ipad.. i served it purpose very well

laptop was down yesterday... i think i had this laptop barely a year... but as some says.. it's the human and not the laptop itself.. it's true though, i still could not believe that a Toshiba laptop can go down so fast

receive a good news today, my colleague will be graduating his "Masters" degree.. i'm still glad for him..

i mention of a ferragamo shoe previously, i did not brought it but get myself a versace shoe instead.. current shoe that i wear to work seems a bit worn out

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Chinese new year is around the corner.. this years does not seems all well to me personally but then it's all a process

i'm the type of person who when indulge in a song i will keep on listening to it and currently i'm into this song by Jason Mraz called "i won't give up" there's the irony of course

i had always wonder what form 6 tend to teach its student.. thus i began doing some research.. i'm amaze that form 6 actually prepare it student very well, although i'm sure there are many that tend to disagree

Those who disagree either did not attend form 6 itself or only spend time playing during that 2 years.. the education that form 6 prepare any individual makes the student to think critically.. i'm not saying pre-u or whatsoever is not good.. it's just that i personally think attending form 6 actually makes a person more mature and ability to think more critically

i began reading one of the form 6 subject called pengajian am.. i'm happy that i am actually learning.. something away from business, biology and self-improvement thing... i actually enjoy reading it

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i got a surprise message yesterday, one of my colleague manage to bring in 3 new deals back... in a day

wow... and she has just been working for a month.. breaking all record even by my very own standard.. i am  very happy... that would explain a beautiful sleep i had yesterday.. ha ha ha

that's a true laugh.. i felt something heavy lifted up from me..

its not really about the money but about easing the burden... i can have a really good sleep after a long time.. there is no wrong in holding very strong on something you believe in, so long as deep down inside we knew the system will work, it is then only matter of time before it takes it effect.

had an interesting conversation with a friend earlier but i will share this later on, it's mid afternoon now and "laughing out loud" i should be working..

till then

Oh, Oh, and one more... to a friend that is going overseas for vacation work thing... i wish her all the best in finding herself.. we all have that identity crisis and also lost at times, no need to live by everyone's rules... don't break the country rules though.. finding oneself is so much more important.. money is secondary because with right attitude and mindset, everything will fall into place.. everyone always have something new to say or gossip about.. it's ok, u had my blessing and peer support.. i would want to see you better yourself too

:)

relief

just completed my very last promotion yesterday.. it was a relief.. i will have a long rest before everything starts kicking again in march..

the moment the promotion ended, i feel the marathon comes to an end.. forget about the gold medal, the silver medal, the first place, the second place.. i'm happy the marathon ended..

time to reward myself a little and freshen up.. has been burning a lot of that midnight oil..

spoke to a friend yesterday and i shared on how much my bonuses is... she said i deserve it for putting many hardwork.. though somehow i feel i should get more, i'm again just glad the marathon is over... now its time to clear up last year's annual leave

that would means more sleep and a lot more sleep...

lol

then its back to school work and also more Today Beauty work

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i want to go for a vacation... probably some beaches and have a little quite time there...

:)

perfecting craft

had a long conversation with a very old friend..

his conversation reminded me that i'm 29 this year

i still have a lot of work to do and prove, be very specific with my aim and at the same time perfecting my craft or myself

no longer i need to find myself, i knew i'm an enterpreneur and i dealt with businesses.. i'm already in this path and it's important i perfect the things i'm doing

not really want to indulge in anything more other than simply perfecting what i'm doing and improve myself.. still have many works to do

i'm very sure when everything is well, money and success will follow..

:)

it's about 8 and more 8

on top of my lungs, i'm screaming

STOP BEING NOSY!!!!!!!!!!! dumb 8 woman

what the hell??

aunties or whoever... please, there are many things in the world are beautiful than being nosy than just running your mouth

just STOP BEING NOSY, STOP IT...

and i dont even know why am i getting into argument with these people... maybe its getting into my nerve.. oh damn, now i'm losing control..

damn it

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short memo

dumb ass never learn...

lol.. learn.. no wonder..

a short midnight memo that somehow echo by car racing on the outside..

the fan keep spinning, circulating the hot air..

some messages keeps on coming.. i have decided not to read nor reply.. again

dumb ass never learn

call me whatever names, its some karma i deserved for calling others during my school time.. i still stand firm on this, there are certain things better left between certain people

don't really expect people to understand or considerate.. somehow or rather, if i don't open up or speak out how do i expect others to understand... this statement is rightfully true in terms of communication between co-workers and also family, probably friends too

i choose to retain certain privacy of my own

i am the bad apple afterall.. a spaceboy that seems just a little out of place

but its ok

i caught up a conversation earlier today, and it goes like this

"why some people seems stubborn and being so negative in thinking??"

i replied by stating there are people who like to deny for the sake of denying without know why.. when asked further why or give additional explantion, the explanation is always because of sixth sense or because of feeling..

these type of people, except we can earn money from them, is not worth spending time listening because their opinion or judgement is always base on feeling and not facts..

i see many of these people during work and also after work

maybe because i'm indulge in women business...

anyway... thats my two cents

kuching trip

just got back from kuching not too long ago... finally able to every state in malaysia. yes! even terengganu and kota bharu. got a taste of what their local food is all about, it is interesting

meet up with a long time friend at kuching, he is by the way a medical officer, i think he would prefer this title as he work 2 long years for this, lol. he had our dinner and we talked.. for quite a while..

he told me about his 20 years plan.. 20 years!! can u imagine that?? he seems to be very focus on his aim and also very much in track too... i'm happy for him, not many people has that long of a plan, i don't for instance, mine is merely few years down the road, probably 3-5 years. kudos my friend!! well done...

he talked and a name came up, that midget brain lady... the moment the name came up, i gave my honest opinion on what i think about her. A nosy lady that just like to stick her nose on every single thing. He agrees!! i'm just glad he agreed. side tracking for a moment, this person that i'm referring to, always thought she is kinda smart or sensible in some way, she is not. she professionally graduate at 28, who else still achieve that?? trying to give sensible advise or trying to help in a good way?? firstly i dont even think she has any experience to give any sort of sensible advise, secondly nor do i think she has any professional studies or practice to give any sort of sensible advise, thirdly i do not think she knows what is going on while only assuming to give any sort of sensible advise, finally i seriously think she got too much of a free time focusing on the wrong thing because this does not improve herself.

u know there is something called "jaga tepi kain orang".

anyway, we shared a lot of our personal lifes, goals and also our aims..

i knew i have a good friend in hand, for a very long time...

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many pictures to shared, still cant seems to be able to upload any pictures.. will try to figure out..

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beaute library called and we talked... i'm so so so happy, they treat me like good friends.. i have always envy my previous boss that knew many big companies' big boss and can have such good relationship with them.. i'm building one myself, including clara international too..

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has been vegetarian for almost a month now, i notice i no longer get sick easily... i knew its the meat... eating lots of meat make me sick.. how crazy is that...

i'm planning to do this on a long term basis... to eat vegetarian every other day...

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finally is finishing some vitamins bottle... few more to go, i should go for a better lifestyle... not that i want to out live anybody but just to feel better... i have been working very hard for 7 long years.. very very hard... just want to make 2013 a bit easier...

lessen on out-station trip, lessen the tutoring, lessen those part time jobs, lessen promotions.. just pushing back the hours... just take a step slower

i always says I hated KL life..it's hectic and stressful...i prefer east malaysia life... slower and overall.. you also tend to smile more...

put too much mask, sometimes i forgot what is real smile...

the last time i smile is when i saw you the first thing in the morning when i open my eyes... too~

in my thought

got an interesting question today... regarding my personal life

i don't feel at all in ease to say anything regarding my private life.. i find there are certain things i want to leave between me and her... period

so the why and the what... i'm sorry but i have grown more into not discussing my personal things to anyone anymore unless its her standing there then yes, i would only share it with her

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have been doing a lot of readings lately.. both in develop my own character and also completing my studies

i rarely watch movies nowadays, probably because of the cd driver being not user friendly while i find watching it alone to be kinda pointless. Those boring computer games has been deleted altogether. Its just reading and working

been sleeping early too nowadays...

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kudos to Today Beauty for going to Vietnam. Everything is now confirm, only left with some small details. Not a big thing but the fact of me going "international" in south east region makes me jumping with glee on the inside. i know with persistance and hardwork, i can go further.

Remembering how i started it all with bare hands. No exceptional help except me and my partner then. Sweating it out and working till late at night. Oh, the many many hours of hardwork. The medical division will be revive and the way i look at it, it's just around the corner.

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and yes, you are in my thoughts..... very very much

property

Earlier today i had a conversation with a man.. we shared many topics and one of the topic that we shared is regarding investment. Property covering up majority of it. He spoke to me about investing in property. I gave him my comment.

Interesting enough, he agreed.

I agreed upon a book entitle "rich dad, poor dad" that investing in property is a good investment however the author of the book did not get rich through buying and selling property, he got rich from being the author

donald trump did not get rich from property either. He got rich from developing towers and also from other businesses.

HK richest man li kah sing did not get rich from buying and selling property but from developing properties, of the 100 richest man in HK, 75% got their money from developing properties.

We all heard many people states how property fight agaisnt inflamation and that it's the best investment but i seldom heard people get rich from rental or from buying and selling their property. They got their money somewhere else.

How about putting it in bank. It's pointless and because of inflation the value will drop

i couldn't agree more

but bear in mind, cash is king and having cash is still better than holding "papers"

i still think investing in certain projects or business that can at least generate income is much more safer than investing in property. Investing in shops sounds good. Of course again, there are many people telling the other part of the story. Through time and experience i can conclude that there are too many bullshits out there... way too many.. people talked or shared as if they know a whole lot but in truth, they are probably experimenting it themself too and just want a company or two to tag along, just in case it goes wrong... they have company

They people i knew all got their first bucket of gold, through businesses and never through property. Unless of course you are born rich and have tons and tons of money to buy acres upon acres of land, or strips and strips of shops, or dozens and dozens of factory.

Just like one man once told me, palm oil is a good business but owning 1000 acres of palm oil and owning 10 acres of palm oil is a very different story. One might as well put the money somewhere else than invesing in 10 acres of palm oil

i am against the fact that i do all the work and my next of kin benefits from it. I work my butt off, i should be the one enjoying the fruit. If my next generation want a piece of the fruit, i will teach them how to plant the tree. Me passing down my networth should be view as a bonus and not something they are entitle to.

entitle to work hard, if you ask me

after the whole long conversation.. Im happy that at least someone agree with my thought.

interesting article

David Bakke never thought he’d get divorced. At the start of his marriage in 2006, the 45-year-old from Atlanta, GA adored his wife’s intelligence — and was magnetically attracted to her to boot. Nonetheless, soon after tying the knot, cracks appeared in their relationship. “I was a saver, and my wife was a spender,” Bakke says. “She liked to leave a big mess in the kitchen and clean it up afterwards; I liked to leave as little to clean up as possible.” While each disagreement was small on its own, “You’d be surprised what an effect it can have on a relationship,” he says. “Not necessarily the habits themselves, but the unwillingness of one spouse to attempt to change them. Many more than one of our arguments began with, ‘If I can’t even get you to put the toilet seat down, how can I ever expect you to…’” 

By 2010, Bakke was divorced, and baffled about how he’d gotten there. He was also worried about whether he could trust his instincts for relationships in the future: How could he know whether the next woman he was with would stick around? While none of us has a crystal ball, scientists have found that certain traits are common amongst those relationships that founder. Here are some of the most common ones to watch for — and what to do if you encounter them in your own love life.

Identifying the “four horsemen” of failed relationshipsDr. John Gottman, director of Seattle University’s “Love Lab” and founder of the Gottman Institute, has studied thousands of couples for decades. By dissecting every nuance of their rapport from eye rolls to shrugs, he can predict with 94 percent accuracy whether a relationship will eventually dissolve. Four traits turned out to be the most reliable predictors of a breakup (especially when they’re combined in some fashion), so Gottman named them the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.” These traits include: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Criticism involves attacking your partner’s personality or character by saying something like, “you never help with the dishes” or “why are you always so late?” Contempt involves putting your partner down (i.e., “you’re stupid for believing that”). Defensiveness often involves rebuffing your partner’s complaint with one of your own (“I may be late, but you’re way too uptight about it.”) Stonewalling involves clamming up and refusing to hash things out with your partner at all. 

“We all do all of these things — that’s not the problem,” says Katie Ramsburgh, a counselor at the Gottman Institute. It’s when these flaws run unchecked that they can drive a couple apart. To keep this from happening, all you need to do is learn some techniques to combat them. For example, if your partner says, “You haven’t been helping much with the dishes,” don’t immediately volley back with, “Yes, but you haven’t been pitching in with the dog-walking much.” Instead, hear what your partner has to say, and then acknowledge it. Replace negative generalizations (“you never make an effort with my family”) with constructive specifics (“It would mean a lot to me if we spent more time with my family over the summer”). Based on exit surveys, 86 percent of couples make progress on a major gridlock issue in their relationship using Gottman’s methods, which are taught to them in a two-day workshop. 

Enough about the bad stuff…what about the good?While couples tend to hone in on the prevalence of negative interactions to predict whether or not they’ll split, the prevalence of positive interactions is equally critical. According to Gottman, the ratio of positive-to-negative interactions should be 20 to 1 during normal conversations — or 5 to 1 during an argument. These results were echoed by Terri Orbuch, project director for the NIH-funded Early Years of Marriage Project at the University of Michigan and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship. In her research, she found that 67 percent of happy couples say their spouse “often” made them feel good about themselves, whereas only 27 percent of unhappy couples could claim the same thing. The moral of the story: While you might assume your partner already knows you think he or she is smart/funny/sexy, or that you’re grateful he or she cooked dinner, it’s important that you reiterate your appreciation for each other often. 

Marital affairs are rarely the culprit
Think infidelity must be the top cause of divorce? On the contrary: William Doherty, a professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota and director of the Couples on the Brink project, found in his research that the main causes of divorce weren’t the highly dramatic ones people might expect (like adultery or domestic violence), but rather the “soft” reasons, like “we just grew apart.” Doherty isn’t sure why this is the case, although he has his theories. “We think that it may be that the softer reasons are ones where they don’t have a lot of loving feelings anymore,” he says. “If your spouse cheated on you, you may still be in love with [this person], and still might ideally want it to work out. But if the fires have just gone out, that may mean you’re less optimistic.” 

The upshot? Don’t assume that just because you two don’t fight constantly or get in jealous spats that everything is OK. You two need to continue working on the “soft” side of your relationship, too. In particular, engaging in new activities together — from taking a Thai cooking class to salsa lessons — will add additional sparks. And here’s why: novelty drives up your levels of dopamine, a chemical in our bodies that’s also released when we first fall in love. In one study, Arthur Aron at the University of New York in Stony Brook asked couples to spend 90 minutes a week together engaged in familiar pastimes, such as dinner out or a movie. The other group of couples spent 90 minutes a week engaged in more unusual activities. After 10 weeks, couples filled out a marital satisfaction survey. Those that had gone on unfamiliar dates were much happier than the ones who had stuck with doing the usual stuff — proof that staying in love isn’t as mysterious as we might think. 

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something interesting that i came across

mr.cappuccino

sushi and ah wah wanted to tell cappuccino that it has been miss very much....

organic by daniel lee

要如何全身而退

爱一个人几宗罪

离婚外遇劈腿

爱情太误会

谁的一个吻污染谁的嘴

谁依然像出生一样完美

谁能流下纯净眼泪

哪里去寻找有机的爱

多爱一回也不受伤害

就让心底的话留住最初样子

自然的盛开

就让心底的爱情先不必灌溉

与生俱来

爱过的无言以对

分一次手更可悲

临别还要对嘴

虚伪的慈悲

流浪城市中爱与恨流转

属于你却非要一尘不染

是否想的太过简单

灿烂的盛开

多爱一回有益而无害

仿佛心底纯真如昔那个小孩

活过来

hmn……

我期待

second thought

i was going through some mails and came across an interesting mail,it was dated very very long time ago. 9 years to be exact. i was around 20 that time. We use to have friendster then and have all this posting where people asked some question and we answered.. we then post our little answer up, probably to let others or friends know us better.. i would like toplay this game again.. just see how big difference my perception has change throughout the decade...

i have exclude some stupid questions like what is your favourite colour, favourite actor... etc

let's start

:)

1)what is money to you
-I used to think that money is the root of all evil or that it means success however throughout the years, i find that money means option to me. With money, you get the luxury of choosing between A, B or C. Without money, you probably can't choose and only stuck with option A.

2)what is your best trait
-i would say hardworking and persistance. When everybody is resting or having their happy hour, i am there working. I do this not because i enjoy work but because i saw many lazy people out there also due to my previous failure experience, i knew if i would work harder than anybody else i would able to go further. Lazy people can only go so far. Then there's persistance, i am a very stubborn and persistance people who know if i want something i would go the extra mile to get it. I knew most things are possible in the world with persistance and hardwork.

3)do you prefer study or work
-it does not matter so long as i am able to learn something new and improve myself.

4)how do you see yourself 10 years from now
-honestly, i do not know. it's too far fetch but ideally i would want my very own small family of course. I would want to have a simple family life probably living out of the city, somewhere near to the ocean and have my very own orchard. I can go fishing anytime and enjoy the dusk while listening to the oldies. However to do this i would first want to reach the pinacle of success in the business world where i own a few businesses domestically as well as internationally. I would only go back to the office probably twice a week to oversee everything. of course while doing this if i can also have my very own ferrari would be an excellent addition for i believe we should also have material dream too.

5)which country would you want to visit most
-i want to vist every single continent in the world. i dont have a particular country i really want to go except south america. I would want to sit back and enjoy a simple life than travelling seeing things that probably i can see from the net too. Sure, it's different but unless it's experience something new, seeing things does not appeal much to me.

6)what or who is your inspiration
- it changes overtime i would say but again i think my inspiration has to do with my attitude. i hate losing, i also at the same time like to see people being successful. So i keep motivate hoping people around me to be better so that i can also push myself to be better. I would say seeing others doing well is an inspiration for me to be better.

7)what is your greatest fear
-when god no longer listen to me..

8)one quote you want to share to many
-if it is to be, it's up to me.

9)what do you want in life
-to represent an idea. Many people take things for granted now and expect success handed to them. Even though it is so, it is through hardwork of tears and sweat that makes a man a better person. I want to past this down to my children and hopefully people around me that we should work hard chasing our dream and not waste it. Never let anybody telling us we can't do something. Grind it out.

10)what means the most to you
-a supporting wife that hold me through the toughest time and is still there. To wipe the sweat off my forehead and still supporting me. To go through the sun and rain, and still be there. Good times or bad times she is still there.

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There are few more silly things but looking back at how i wrote them many years back, i see few changes.

I'm very sure few years down the road the statement above would probably change too.. experience and situation make a person change its perception, why hold so firm on certain views? overly stubborn is never a good thing...

january 12

不喜欢孤独且又害怕两个人相处
这分明是一种痛苦
在人多时候最沉默笑容也寂寞
在万丈红尘中  找个人爱我
当我避开你的柔情后泪开始堕落

是不敢不想不应该再谢谢你的爱
我不得不存在 像一颗尘埃
还是会带给你伤害
我不得不存在 在你的未来
最怕这样就是带你最大的伤害

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not what we give

but what we share

for the gift without the giver

is bare

the smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention

one can always pay back the loan of gold but dies forever in debt to those who are kind

 

so near yet so far

so close



yet so far

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yeah, seems like i'm one of the few that only work on friday evening and through the weekends

everyone has a different way of spending their happy hour



weekday, weekend doesn't seems important to me..

tonight seems a bit different from any other nights... had i just single hand turn diamond into dust?? sometimes i cant help but wonder and ponder on this but is it important at all??



it is

life is so much more than just pondering...

and sometimes life can hit you hard

i can handle the impact.. of course..

and at times i hated it so much that i'm so emotion binded and blinded



so near yet so far, there is a reason god put me where i am.. some path is never easy, but which path is easy?? it is until we walked it that we realize it's easy or hard

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i do miss those interlectual conversation, that deep thoughts and also smart insight

and i always say god give us brain to use and not for anything else.. it is definetely not a decoration..

now i just have to rely more on books to get those insight..

damn

i'm fine, thank you

spoke to a customer earlier and she asked how am i doing lately, i pause for a moment.. few things ran through my mind.. digesting her questions.. i am actually doing ok recently.. i did had some hatred and some anger but ever since "that" day.. those negative feeling no longer linger around

because of that too.. i have been able to sleep earlier and better, work better and also able to focus more on my studies

as my company is undergoing some transition and growing stage, i'm just very very happy at how it is performing at the moment. We are very very stable and strong at the moment...

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on a more personal note, though feeling is still mix.. im starting to balance it out..

i browse through some pictures and saw happy moments.. i smirk for a little while..

she has her agenda and im very sure she knows what she is doing.

sincerely from me

really

please, take care

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i'm fine, thank you is the answer i gave out from the question she asked..

achieve excellence

"it's possible to build any given skill or capacity in the same systematic way we do a muscle: push past your comfort zone, and then rest."

1. Pursue what you love. Passion is an incredible motivator. It fuels focus, resilience, and perseverance.
    
2. Do the hardest work first. We all move instinctively toward pleasure and away from pain. Most great performers, Ericsson and others have found, delay gratification and take on the difficult work of practice in the mornings, before they do anything else. That's when most of us have the most energy and the fewest distraction


3. Practice intensely, without interruption for short periods of no longer than 90 minutes and then take a break. Ninety minutes appears to be the maximum amount of time that we can bring the highest level of focus to any given activity. The evidence is equally strong that great performers practice no more than 4 ½ hours a day.

4. Seek expert feedback, in intermittent doses. The simpler and more precise the feedback, the more equipped you are to make adjustments. Too much feedback, too continuously can create cognitive overload, increase anxiety, and interfere with learning.
    
5. Take regular renewal breaks. Relaxing after intense effort not only provides an opportunity to rejuvenate, but also to metabolize and embed learning. It's also during rest that the right hemisphere becomes more dominant, which can lead to creative breakthrough.

6. Ritualize practice. Will and discipline are wildly overrated. As the researcher Roy Baumeister has found, none of us have very much of it. The best way to insure you'll take on difficult tasks is to build rituals -- specific, inviolable times at which you do them, so that over time you do them without having to squander energy thinking about them.

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don't always berate self for falling short but knowing exactly what it would take to get to that next level

sleep position

Robert Phipps, a body language expert, has studied the four most common sleeping positions to determine how it reflects a person's personality and outlook on life.

The results, he claims, can identify how stressful your day was, how much you worry and how much control you have over your life.

It is said to reveal traits such as stubbornness, bossiness and fanciful dreaming, as well as how self-critical a person is or whether they feel in control of life.

According to his research, more than half of British adults sleep in the “foetal” position, curled up on their side with knees tucked in.

This stance, favoured by worriers, is said to show the sleeper is seeking to return to their comfort zone after a stressful day.

Sleep positions

1. FOETAL

People who sleep like this are returning to their comfort zone to de-stress themselves from the day's activities. The higher the knees and lower the head the more internal comfort you give yourself. Foetal sleepers are conscientious, ordered and like things in their place but they can over think things and worry unnecessarily.

People who sleep like this for the majority of the night can expect a refreshed awakening having dealt with the previous day's issues compartmentalising and organising while they sleep, allowing them to feel refreshed when they wake and ready to move onward and upward.

Foetal sleepers should be careful not to become too stuck in their comfort zone and be prepared to take on new challenges each day.

2. LOG /. SOLDIER

The sleeper in this position fully extends their head, neck, arms, legs and body all stretched out in a straight line. The longer you sleep like this, the more rigid your thinking and you can become inflexible which means you make things harder for yourself.

Loggers are set in their ways and can be stubborn, liking things done their way, which can make them come across as bossy or even aloof.

"Sleep like a log" is the old adage and people who sleep in this straight line can wake up stiffer than when they went to sleep. Try to relax more and let your muscles unwind from the day's hassles and you'll wake up feeling more flexible in your thinking.

Loggers need to stretch themselves each day to reach new goals and then your day is likely to be more exciting, challenging and fun. You'll see and feel the benefits in your body and mind as you embrace being a more relaxed you.

3. YEARNER

The Yearner has two possible meanings with arms outstretched as though you are chasing your dreams, conversely it can mean you are being chased. You feel you want more from life and are willing to go out there and get it with both hands, ready to capture every new and exciting challenge that comes your way.

Yearners are their own worst critics always expecting great results in everything they do, which can mean giving up to quickly with things that don't go their way right from the off.

Yearners wake up eager to face the challenges of the day, seeking out new opportunities. However, take care to make sure what you yearn for is what you really want or you'll spend a lot of wasted time and energy chasing things that don't really fulfil you.

Yearners should face each new day as a fresh start, reviewing where they are going and what they want from the day, then go for it and see it through with full commitment.

4. FREEFALLER

With the whole body outstretched flat on their stomach, arms at right angles, hands gripping the pillow as though holding on for dear life, physically the least comfortable position to sleep for most adults.

Freefallers tend to feel like life happens around them and they are just hanging on for the ride, which can make them feel like they're not in control of what happens.

Freefallers can wake up feeling like they still have things leftover from the previous day, which can make them feel over anxious about getting things done today.

Freefallers need to take control of each new day and deal with things one step at a time until you are happy to move to the next step. You will then be more motivated and inspired, creating opportunities for you be the boss of your own destiny.

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Average people focus on saving. Rich people focus on earning.

Siebold theorizes that the wealthy focus on what they’ll gain by taking risks, rather than how to save what they have. ”The masses are so focused on clipping coupons and living frugally they miss major opportunities,” he writes. ”Even in the midst of a cash flow crisis, the rich reject the nickle and dime thinking of the masses. They are the masters of focusing their mental energy where it belongs: on the big money.”

Average people play it safe with money. Rich people know when to take risks.

“Leverage is the watchword of the rich,” Siebold writes. ”Every investor loses money on occasion, but the world class knows no matter what happens, they will aways be able to earn more.”

Average people love to be comfortable. Rich people find comfort in uncertainty.

For the most part, it takes guts to take the risks necessary to make it as a millionaire––a challenge most middle class thinkers aren’t comfortable living with. ”Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset,” Siebold writes. World class thinkers learn early on that becoming a millionaire isn’t easy and the need for comfort can be devastating. They learn to be comfortable while operating in a state of ongoing uncertainty.”

Average people never make the connection between money and health. Rich people know money can save your life.

While the middle class squabbles over the virtues of Obamacare and their company’s health plan, the super wealthy are enrolled in a super elite “boutique medical care” association, Siebold says. ”They pay a substantial yearly membership fee that guarantees them 24-hour access to a private physician who only serves a small group of members,” he writes. ”Some wealthy neighborhoods have implemented this strategy and even require the physician to live in the neighborhood.”

Average people believe they must choose between a great family and being rich. Rich people know you can have it all.

The idea the wealth must come at the expense of family time is nothing but a “cop-out”, Siebold says. ”The masses have been brainwashed to believe it’s an either/or equation,” he writes. “The rich know you can have anything you want if you approach the challenge with a mindset rooted in love and abundance.”

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of course i'm not rich but i believe with the right attitude and positive thinking, anything is beyond possible in this world. We cannot control the outcome of certain situation but we can control how we think and to get things right we firstly have to think right and above all be positive as well as confident with the things we are going to do.

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Average people set low expectations so they’re never disappointed. Rich people are up for the challenge.

“Psychologists and other mental health experts often advise people to set low expectations for their life to ensure they are not disappointed,” Siebold writes. “No one would ever strike it rich and live their dreams without huge expectations.”

Average people believe you have to DO something to get rich. Rich people believe you have to BE something to get rich.

“That’s why people like Donald Trump go from millionaire to nine billion dollars in debt and come back richer than ever,” he writes. “While the masses are fixated on the doing and the immediate results of their actions, the great ones are learning and growing from every experience, whether it’s a success or a failure, knowing their true reward is becoming a human success machine that eventually produces outstanding results.”

Average people believe you need money to make money. Rich people use other people’s money.

Linear thought might tell people to make money in order to earn more, but Siebold says the rich aren’t afraid to fund their future from other people’s pockets.
“Rich people know not being solvent enough to personally afford something is not relevant. The real question is, ‘Is this worth buying, investing in, or pursuing?’” he writes.

Average people believe the markets are driven by logic and strategy. Rich people know they’re driven by emotion and greed.

Investing successfully in the stock market isn’t just about a fancy math formula. “The rich know that the primary emotions that drive financial markets are fear and greed, and they factor this into all trades and trends they observe,” Siebold writes. ”This knowledge of human nature and its overlapping impact on trading give them strategic advantage in building greater wealth through leverage.”

Average people live beyond their means. Rich people live below theirs.

“Here’s how to live below your means and tap into the secret wealthy people have used for centuries: Get rich so you can afford to,” he writes. ”The rich live below their means, not because they’re so savvy, but because they make so much money that they can afford to live like royalty while still having a king’s ransom socked away for the future.”

Average people teach their children how to survive. Rich people teach their kids to get rich.

Rich parents teach their kids from an early age about the world of “haves” and “have-nots,” Siebold says. Even he admits many people have argued that he’s supporting the idea of elitism. He disagrees. ”[People] say parents are teaching their kids to look down on the masses because they’re poor. This isn’t true,” he writes. “What they’re teaching their kids is to see the world through the eyes of objective reality––the way society really is.” If children understand wealth early on, they’ll be more likely to strive for it later in life.

Average people let money stress them out. Rich people find peace of mind in wealth.

The reason wealthy people earn more wealth is that they’re not afraid to admit that money can solve most problems, Siebold says. ”[The middle class] sees money as a never-ending necessary evil that must be endured as part of life. The world class sees money as the great liberator, and with enough of it, they are able to purchase financial peace of mind.”

Average people would rather be entertained than educated. Rich people would rather be educated than entertained.

While the rich don’t put much stock in furthering wealth through formal education, they appreciate the power of learning long after college is over, Siebold says.  ”Walk into a wealthy person’s home and one of the first things you’ll see is an extensive library of books they’ve used to educate themselves on how to become more successful,” he writes. ”The middle class reads novels, tabloids and entertainment magazines.”

Average people think rich people are snobs. Rich people just want to surround themselves with like-minded people.

The negative money mentality poisoning the middle class is what keeps the rich hanging out with the rich, he says. ”[Rich people] can’t afford the messages of doom and gloom,” he writes. “This is often misinterpreted by the masses as snobbery. Labeling the world class as snobs is another way the middle class finds to feel better bout themselves and their chosen path of mediocrity.”

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Average people think MONEY is the root of all evil. Rich people believe POVERTY is the root of all evil.

“The average person has been brainwashed to believe rich people are lucky or dishonest,” Siebold writes. That’s why there’s a certain shame that comes along with “getting rich” in lower-income communities. ”The world class knows that while having money doesn’t guarantee happiness, it does make your life easier and more enjoyable.”

Average people think selfishness is a vice. Rich people think selfishness is a virtue.

“The rich go out there and try to make themselves happy. They don’t try to pretend to save the world,” Siebold told Business Insider. The problem is that middle class people see that as a negative––and it’s keeping them poor, he writes. “If you’re not taking care of you, you’re not in a position to help anyone else. You can’t give what you don’t have.”

Average people have a lottery mentality. Rich people have an action mentality.

“While the masses are waiting to pick the right numbers and praying for prosperity, the great ones are solving problems,” Siebold writes. “The hero [middle class people] are waiting for may be God, government, their boss or their spouse. It’s the average person’s level of thinking that breeds this approach to life and living while the clock keeps ticking away.”

Average people think the road to riches is paved with formal education. Rich people believe in acquiring specific knowledge.

“Many world-class performers have little formal education, and have amassed their wealth through the acquisition and subsequent sale of specific knowledge,” he writes. “Meanwhile, the masses are convinced that master’s degrees and doctorates are the way to wealth, mostly because they are trapped in the linear line of thought that holds them back from higher levels of consciousness…The wealthy aren’t interested in the means, only the end.”

Average people long for the good old days. Rich people dream of the future.

“Self-made millionaires get rich because they’re willing to bet on themselves and project their dreams, goals and ideas into an unknown future,” Siebold writes. “People who believe their best days are behind them rarely get rich, and often struggle with unhappiness and depression.”

Average people see money through the eyes of emotion. Rich people think about money logically.

“An ordinarily smart, well-educated and otherwise successful person can be instantly transformed into a fear-based, scarcity driven thinker whose greatest financial aspiration is to retire comfortably,” he writes. “The world class sees money for what it is and what it’s not, through the eyes of logic. The great ones know money is a critical tool that presents options and opportunities.”

Average people earn money doing things they don’t love. Rich people follow their passion.

“To the average person, it looks like the rich are working all the time,” Siebold says. “But one of the smartest strategies of the world class is doing what they love and finding a way to get paid for it.”On the other hand, middle class take jobs they don’t enjoy “because they need the money and they’ve been trained in school and conditioned by society to live in a linear thinking world that equates earning money with physical or mental effort.”